Common Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
© 2014
During many years of having one on one conversations with the lost, one makes a lot of mistakes. Thus, in the process, I have learned to avoid some things and excelled in others.
​It is my pleasure to share with you my mistakes so you can benefit from them.

Here are just a few:​​​
Asking good questions

​​Without a doubt, one of the best ways to guide people towards the truth is to have a number of open ended probing thoughtful questions on hand. Jesus often used questions. I share my favorites, as well as what I have learned from others.

Accepting someone's claim to be a believer too quickly

​Jesus never did. Plus, my own research reveals a majority of people who profess Christianity have little evidence to support such a claim.​​ We must be ready to circumnavigate around the verbal profession and probe further. Like a doctor with a patient who "feels fine" we must run tests to get a clearer picture.
Majoring on the minors

Sometimes people can get the best of you. They purposefully draw you into contentious issues (the crusades, hypocrites in the church, the age of the earth, some obscure Bible "contradiction," etc.). These issues are not as important as they want you to believe. Recognize these issues for what they often are: a smokescreen designed to divert attention away from the real issue.
Failing to distinguish between true and false repentance

"No one who is born of God continues to sin" (1 John 3:9). But does that mean Christians are perfect? Genuine repentance can be a difficult doctrine to comprehend for saved and lost folks alike. A witness for Christ must be prepared to explain the difference between a regenerate believer who struggles with sin, and an unregenerate sinner who seeks to excuse it.
Not listening

The Bible says we must "always be ready to give an answer ... with gentleness and respect" (1 Peter 3:15). Therefore, we must strive to be respectful and ​​avoid dominating the discussion." People must sense we care about what they have to say. If we are too eager to make our "presentation" they will think us rash.
Encouraging someone to make a decision too quickly

In my opinion, one of the worst things a Christian can do is rush someone into making a decision too quickly; where there is no work of the Holy Spirit. Sometimes well meaning evangelists can engage in "easy believism" and ​​give a lost person false assurance.